By Thor. I love being judged for being judgemental

They hypocrisy of it all!

Here, this is what I mean. I just got around to checking out my comments This is one from Sarah;
I think it's awesome that you've lost so much weight, and have kept it off for so long. You obviously have a great amount of emotional and physical strength.

I lost incredible amounts of weight before I had my band. I also gained incredible amounts of weight.

Everyone makes excuses for different reasons, and for different issues in their lives. People make choices, and do what they need to do in order to survive everyday. Not everyone who is morbidly obese is that way because of a conscious choice they've made; insisting that it's the truth will not change the truth.

Even though the most difficult part is over for you, try to imagine yourself in someone else's shoes - someone who is *entirely* different from you. Not just someone who is morbidly obese - Imagine for a moment, if you will, that you're a victim of sexual or physical abuse who eats for comfort, to lower the chances of anyone worthwhile being sexually attracted to you. When that comfort is taken away, panic sets in and takes away all thoughts of losing weight and being "happy".

The only thing that matters at that moment is the fear, and the need for comfort. Just imagine that, and see how easy it is for you to tell that person that they're just making up excuses. If you can still say that, when you know the whole story, then you truly are judgmental, and even a bit heartless. Surely it isn't that black and white for you, in your life. Why expect that it's any different for people struggling with similar, or very different, issues with weight?

Sarah. Sweetheart. You assume that I was never sexually abused, never violated... You just assume darling.

We all have our crosses to bear. Everyone. The trick in this life, the only one you get, is to rise above it, and get the fuck on with life.

If we can't move on we get stuck in that spot, re living it day in, day out.

So NEVER assume that because someone appears to be "judgmental, and even a bit heartless" to you, don't assume it's because they haven't been victims.

*If* I am that, it's because I refuse to be a victim to my past. Held hostage like so many other people I see who can't move on, who are trapped by it. But I am not. If I was honestly heartless and judgemental, I would have given my husband shit for losing and gaining the same 10kg over and over. If I was heartless, I would not have done half the things I have in the last couple of years.

I am just a very strong person. I encourage others to be the same. Be the strongest person you can be.

And if you HONESTLY think I am heartless. Fuck off.